DaDid you see this post which I shared on Facebook last night?

A lady called Aimee Holland posted it and wow, it made me stop and read.

It’s raw, open and honest.

Take a little read:

Dear Personal Trainer,

I know I’m fat again. 
I know I should be in the gym 3/4 times a week. 
I know I should be eating healthy food. I know it’s all in my head.I know it’s me that needs to change.
But I need you to know some stuff too.

Showing me your chiselled abs just makes me feel even more shit about myself.
Posting pictures about your super efficient meal prep when I struggle to put together one healthy meal overwhelms me.
Videos of your PB or insane training routine make me want to run for the hills.
You confuse the shit out of me with all the conflicting advice around ‘nutrition’ carb loading, meal timings, macros and I still haven’t a clue if I should eat carbs or not.

I need you.
I need you to show me you get it.
I need you to reach out and tell me it’s going to be ok.
I need you to understand that it’s not easy for me.
I need you to make this really, really simple.
I need you to hold my hand one step at a time.
I need you to meet me where I’m at.
I don’t care about your qualifications.
I don’t care about your superior knowledge.
I don’t care why your way is so much better.
I just care about me.
I want to feel amazing naked.
I want to be fit enough to keep up with him 😉
I want to shop for clothes without choosing stuff that hides my fat.
I want to live my life again without feeling like a failure every single day.
I want to turn heads and show off my amazing figure.
I want to wear a bikini.

So please.
Help me.
Show up in my world and let me see that you understand.
Tell me about the clients you have helped just like me.
Give me baby steps.
Don’t judge me because I’m not like you.
Give me the confidence to trust you with my life.
Tell me that you’ve got this, that you’ll keep me on track, that you won’t accept my shitty excuses for missing a session.
Teach me how to value myself like you do.
I can learn any exercise I want from YouTube.

What I need from you is accountability. 
What I need from you is clarity.
What I need from you is a cheerleader.

‘That 30 something mum you’re chasing with your advertising’
P.S. If you really understand me and I really trust you I’ll pay all the money in the word for you.

How did that make you feel?

Have you ever felt like that?

You can feel like it’s only you experiencing the above.

One of the biggest fears most of our members have before they join is that nobody will get their struggles.

Everyone will be super fit.

The trainers won’t understand.

That they’re the only ones experiencing all these thoughts and feelings.

This is the biggest reason that I try to show the real me.

That I’m just like you.

I’ve been there.

I show the Ellen who has struggled with her weight in the past,

who struggles to be ‘on it’ all the time,

has that constant battle to stay in shape,

being overwhelmed,

the emotions involved,

real life getting in the way…

I understand.

I’ve been there.

I still go there sometimes.

I am constantly working on valuing me and what’s inside, not just the outside.

Pretending to be somebody I’m not would mean I don’t help the people I want and need to help.

It wouldn’t help those people above….the Dear Personal Trainer people.

They would be put off.

None of us are super human.

So, why should we pretend to be?

In my eyes, having somebody who relates to your struggles is far more important.

Somebody who gets you.

Knowing somebody has your back.

Support, non-judgment and understanding.

Not just abs and fitness qualifications.


Have a wonderful weekend.


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